The U.S. Supreme Court has ruled 6-3 that sodomy laws are unconstitutional. June 26, 2003

Outing People

     This is the practice of publicly announcing that someone, other than yourself, is Gay, without their consent. I think this sucks. We all have to come out on our own terms. You can see my own coming out story here. A lot of Outing is done for political reasons. We do need positive Gay role-models, but, it doesn't look good for someone to be outed only for them to retreat back into the closet and deny it.  Even if they come out later, people say that they must of been ashamed of who they are, or they would have admitted it when they were outed. Like being Gay is something to be ashamed of! It's not.

Gay's and Freedom of Religion
(Specifically from my point of view)

     How can one person that is, basically, shut away from the rest of the world, Tell the whole world what they should think? EI:  "CONGREGATION FOR THE DOCTRINE OF THE FAITH CONSIDERATIONS REGARDING PROPOSALS TO GIVE LEGAL RECOGNITION TO UNIONS BETWEEN HOMOSEXUAL PERSONS" (Taken from the Vatican's site.) It goes against everything that The U.S. Constitution stands for. It's a Dictatorship in the Name of God. 

    The one thing that is good about it is that this isn't the 1400's and the pope doesn't have the power he once had. Such as the Borgia Family's pope Alexander. Now that's someone I would want around today. 

Gay's and Separation of Church and State

    Now, even in America where there is supposed to be a separation from Church and State, we have a President that is proposing Religious legislation. Not following Thomas Jefferson's "A BILL FOR ESTABLISHING RELIGIOUS FREEDOM", 

"that the impious presumption of legislators and rulers, civil as well as ecclesiastical, who, being themselves but fallible and uninspired men, have assumed dominion over the faith of others, setting up their own opinions and modes of thinking as the only true and infallible, and as such endeavoring to impose them on others, hath established and maintained false religions over the greatest part of the world and through all time:

SECT. II.  WE, the General Assembly of Virginia, do enact that no man shall be compelled to frequent or support any religious worship, place, or ministry whatsoever, nor shall be enforced, restrained, molested, or burthened in his body or goods, nor shall otherwise suffer, on account of his religious opinions or belief; but that all men shall be free to profess, and by argument to maintain, their opinions in matters of religion, and that the same shall in no wise diminish, enlarge, or affect their civil capacities."

    "that our civil rights have no dependance on our religious opinions"  So how can they say that our civil Rights as American Citizens can be denied? Just because we are Gay.    

Gay Life Is Over At 30

    It might look that way to someone that is still in their 20's. At 46 I feel that life is over when you take that last breath. Sure, maybe your club life changes. What I mean is that you might not be able to come home from work, change clothes and go out till closing and then get up, go to work and then start all over again. Now don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the hell out of being 20ish in the 70's and early 80's. Most of it was a wonderful time. I wouldn't go back and not do it. I wouldn't go back at all. I'm looking forward to all the new experiences that await me. I came out in '75. Five years before HIV/AIDS came into our lives. There are so many more avenues available to Gay people today. You don't think that the only people living longer these days are straight people? As Straight baby boomers get older so do us Gay baby boomers. 

Internalized Homophobia

     This is a very scary thing... I have just heard of a 17 year old that killed his intimate friend. Why? Because of his own self-hatred! Damn, when will we learn? I thought that we, as a society have learned better, to some extent. We are sometimes, inadvertently, taught to hate ourselves. I was lucky. My parents never talked about homosexuality. Hell, they had trouble talking about S-E-X, in general. By the time that Daddy had the talk with me about the birds and the bees, I was about 5 steps ahead. Remember to be careful, the next time you talk around or to your kids. You may not know it, but they might become gay! 

     It may not come from you, it may come from peers of your child. I found out after my Mother died, that she suspected that I was gay, as early as 4-5 years of age. I grew up knowing that I was different from other boys. I liked musicals, the arts, the beauty of nature. I didn't like sports, hunting or fishing. The things that are 'normally' associated with boy things. Looking back, there were plenty of clues of my Gayness. If Mother and Daddy had then, the resources that are available now, I think things would have been different for me.

    I did grow up with the homophobic slurs. Coming home on the bus when I was in Jr. High was a nightmare. There was this kid, B-B that would call me names like 'fat-fag boy'. It was a daily ritual. Until I had had enough and finally turned around before I got off the bus and knocked the hell out of him! He left me alone after that. 

    It did get better but, not being able to openly date someone did have it's effects on me. I guess. When I went to the prom, I went with my good friend Wanda. My Jr. Prom was the first time I kissed a girl. I would rather have been dancing and kissing a guy. I've heard that there are some schools that allow same-sex couples go to the prom. This is a great thing that allows gay people be included in a part of the growing up ritual. 

    If you have kids, let them know that what ever they are or become that you will love them.   

Fag Hags

     Fag Hag- (noun) straight women that frequent gay bars and date Gay guys. This is phenomenon that puzzles me. It used to be a derogatory title used exclusively for women that would go to gay bars and pick up gay guys and want to have their babies. They are usually overweight. Being called a Fag Hag was not a nice thing. I can remember this Fag Hag in the bar that I came out in that we all called Fat Pat. She would party all night and dance with the most effeminate guys. When we saw her we would yell, "Fag Hag alert!" When she would not get her fag fix for the evening because the guy that she was after would leave with another guy she would throw a hissy fit. 

     I don't know what reason a straight woman to come to gay bars to pick up men? That's what We're there for. It's one thing for a straight woman to party at a gay bar but, a straight woman to try to bed a gay guy. Is it the old Scarlett O'Hara deal about going after what you can't have? Is it a conquest to 'change' a gay man into a straight man? Sure we're supposed to be more sensitive and all then our straight counterparts. There are the ones that do the latter. I have seen them come to our bars and go after the gay guys that still have doubts about their sexuality. I have seen them break up relationships. 

    I have seen websites about Fag Hags that show them in a positive light. I've even known Gays that think Fag Hags are cool. Maybe I've just missed the boat on that one.        

Gay TV Shows

Gay TV shows have hit the airwaves.

Queer As Folk

 Queer As Folk is getting ready for it's 4th season. But what kind of season is it going to be...? They have cut the season down. From 20+ episodes to 18 or less for the new season. No sooner did the 3rd season start, it was over. I relate to the characters of this show. I either can see myself in them or I know someone like them.   

Will and Grace

I don't even call this a Queer Show. I can see this situation really happening but, it is not very likely. I haven't watched much of it because the few shows that I have watched have turned me off. Sure I have best girlfriends but, being gay, I don't make them the biggest part of my life. This is not Reality TV. 

Queer Eye for the Straight Guy

Well, yes, they play on stereotypes. It is a good show though. I can see it now... All over the U.S., Straight guys are going to start going to Gay Guys to find out how to act. All the Fags that are 'Straight Acting' will have to start acting like the rest of us. LOL The Blonde does go a little far with the touching. But, all in all it's a great show. Being one of the top new shows of the season is cool, especially since NBC is airing them for the non-cable public. 

Boy Meets Boy

I agree with an article I read about it. Just by having a Gay Romantic show was enough. The fact that they are not all gay, and the leading man doesn't know it, is not done in good taste. They are playing with a person's heart. If he picks one that is not gay, he loses, the non-gay guy gets $$$$$. The leading man gets hurt, laughed at, etc. If he knew from the get go that some of the guys were straight I wouldn't be bothered by the show.  We shall see where this one takes us.  

Gay Marriage

Well, first off, I was asked, one time, why it would even matter to me, I'm Single. Who knows, I might be single all my life. But, I still need to know that if and when I do fall in love and want to get Married, I could, just like my straight counterparts. I'm not into the Husband and Wife thing. Why are we wanting to use the same words as straight couples? We are supposed to be the flamboyant, creative people. Why can't we come up with our own words for it? That's why a lot of straight people give us so much flack.

Why not Bonded!!! I know a couple of guys that would love that one. 

Gay Parenting

After watching an episode of 'Real Momentum' on LOGO, the Gay TV Channel, called 'Raising Teens', I got to thinking that I should have a section in Gay Issues about Gay Parenting. So I started a set of pages dedicated to this Issue.


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